The trauma is passed to us in our DNA. It has been etched by myriad attempts to obliterate us, forged by centuries of Babylonians, Romans, Crusaders, Cossacks, Jihadists, ad infinitum. . . an endless list of haters. Wherever we go, wherever we settle, we are never free of it.
I felt it in the earliest fog of my dawning awareness. In the safety of postwar America, it resonated in sounds and furies I couldn’t understand. The wailing, the anger, the despair that accompanied the opening of an envelope. The reluctance to go to the door when a telegram arrived. The startle and the groan when the telephone rang. I felt the pain, intuited the anguish, but I was a baby, and I didn’t have words. The frenzy was terrifying.
As I acquired language, words seeped into my consciousness and insinuated themselves into my vocabulary. Nazis, camps, exile, death, torture, hiding, hate. . . .
The images swarmed into my nightmares. Dark images I could not name usurped my dreams. By the time I was 3, the nightmare was a cinematic horror that repeated itself over and over. My cousins and I hide in my grandmother’s attic, a house in Queens full of shadowy corners, where evil easily lurked. And always – though I do not know how or where I ever heard them – the soundtrack comes from the whine of European sirens and the thump of jackboots on concrete.
I inevitably wake just as a helmeted monster finds me and proclaims, “So. . . you thought you could escape us. But there is nowhere to hide, Jew. . . .”
I was eleven before the full impact of my family’s flight became clear. When I asked my mother why she never talked to me about it, she said, “I lived. It wasn’t so interesting.” She had not suffered as the beloved relatives suffered in the camps or as the cousins did when they were ripped from their parents’ arms and sent on Kindertransports or the way others did who watched their parents murdered and had to find their orphaned way to Australia or South America or . . . .Mom had no words and no sympathy for her own trauma – being cast into exile, leaving everything she valued in a world gone mad. She could not have explained it to me.
When I was an adult, I recognized some of her coping techniques. She married my father, an all-American boy, whose family had come to North America by choice in the 1600s, Dutch and English protestants, fleeing nothing. They came in search of a New Life that was richer than the rich one they left behind. Dad was a towheaded blonde, whose sky-blue eyes glistened with tears when he heard his favorite hymns. He was Safety. Mom buried herself in his identity and denied her own so that her children would never have to fear the monsters who robbed her of so much.
I did not share her assurance. I grew ever more afraid of the knock on the door, the intrusion of the evil interloper intent on taking our joy, our lives. But I trusted that thanks to Israel, we would never again be an endangered species. If the Nazis returned, we would have a place to go. The uncles and aunts and cousins who were denied entrance to alternate countries or who were caught because they knew of no place to go might have been saved had there been an Israel. We the people without a country had one whose birth was within a year of my own, and we would never be flagless orphans again.
People ask me, “Why do you need Israel? You are American!” My mother’s older sister, whose wisdom I found nonpareil, loved to say that in America we were safe. “Don’t worry!” She would laugh. “The US is too diverse a community to hate one people with the kind of vehemence that European hegemony empowered. We will never be hated like that here.”
I have wanted to believe her. I have wanted to be grateful for this country that nurtured me, a country I deeply love. Knowing that the Plot Against America of the 1930s and 40s was thwarted, I wanted to trust the country I have always believed is mine.
Yet, even now we are reminded that even here we are interlopers.
A synagogue in Pittsburgh is attacked. Neo-nazis march in droves shouting “Jews will not replace us.” Undereducated youngsters with no sense of history celebrate the murder of Israeli children and blame us for wanting to save Israel. They scream for its extinction. Modern Judenratners, betray us at every turn. We are no safer here than we are in any other gentile-dominated country of the world.
We require the presence of a resolute, strong Israel to safeguard our future.
Israel must survive. Or we will not.
Am Yisroel Chai!